For the rest of my life

Oct 11, 2011 by

I’ve had 6 full-time jobs in 8 years plus at least 3 part-time jobs or businesses. I’ve moved 4 times and been active in at least 3 different leadership or volunteer activities outside of work in that same period. While it would be a stretch to say that I’m afraid of commitment, it wouldn’t be to say that I get bored easily.

Yet here I am ready to make a lifetime commitment to one person. And people in my family live a looong time. My Great Grandpa was 100 when he died and my Great Grandma was 94 when she died. Based on family longevity alone, I’m looking at 50+ years with this man. And I can’t wait for every day of it.

I’ve always been wary of marriage. As one of the millions of children of divorce, I didn’t really believe it could work. After all, why should it? For much of history, marriage was about property rights, money and procreation. Now its supposedly about love. Love seems subjective; if it can be found, surely it can be lost as well.

I’m still doubtful of marriage as an institution for many reasons, but what I’m not doubtful about (even for a second) is about the joy that spending every day of my life with my best friend will bring me. Because that’s what he is: my very best friend.

When things get bad (as they inevitably will) I’ll have someone I trust by my side to lean on. And when things are great, we will enjoy them together.

Let’s be clear: he hasn’t ‘completed’ me or turned me from some sad single girl into a happy coupled girl. What he has done is made it easier for me to be ME – without judgement or limitation. For that reason, and many others, I look forward to 50 more years together.

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  • Bonnie Koenig

    This is lovely.  Best of luck to you post.

  • Morgan Meneses Sheets

    I absolutely love this!  I could not have said it better, but this is certainly how I feel about being married to my best friend.  I am a complete person on my own and yet she makes me better, makes me want to be better.  If you can find a true partner to walk by your side for however many years you are lucky enough to have then the years ahead are simply a terrific adventure that you get to go on together.  I am so happy for you and Dan!  Wishing you all the best!

    • Thanks sweetie! I totally agree with you on the importance of finding a true partner and how very lucky we are to have found ours. When I get back, we’ll definitely hook up for lunch and so I can see the latest pics of your gorgeous little girl! 🙂

  • Julia Rocchi

    Beautifully put, my friend!! Happy wedding to you and Dan — can’t wait to catch up when you’re back. 🙂

  • Dolly

    I was reading your totally nuts post and stumbled on to this. I married my best friend almost 36 years ago and have no regrets. Hope you and Dan share the same joy, craziness, and love that we have been so lucky to have found.

    • Thanks Aunt Dolly! So far its been a wonderful ride – I’m looking forward to 36+ more years of it 🙂